EXERCISE
It is natural to view yourself as a victim and to experience
all of the feelings and attitudes that accompany that victim status when the trauma has only recently occurred or there has
been no opportunity for working through the emotions and thoughts connected to the trauma. It takes time and effort to move
from the status of being a victim to becoming a survivor. The feelings and thoughts associated with being a victim are overwhelmingly
negative and self-defeating. The feelings and thoughts associated with being a survivor, on the other hand, are more positive,
forward looking, and confident. While it is natural and expected that everyone who has been exposed to trauma starts with
feeling like a victim, realization of the potential of this person can only be achieved if their status changes to that of
becoming a survivor. This exercise will help you understand the differences between victims and survivors and help you define
your own current status.1.The following words or phrases describe either a victim or a survivor, but they are presented to you in a jumbled and
mixed-up order. Your task is to look at each word or phrase and label it with a "V" for “Victim”
or an "S" for “Survivor.” You will have to sort through the list to finally end up with a
profile of words that describe the victim and words that describe a survivor.List of DescriptorsDepressedPreoccupied with traumaHas overcome painEnjoys livingBlames perpetratorLives in the pastPessimisticWants
understandingHopelessEnjoys peopleEmpoweredLetting go of angerTrauma is in perspectiveGrowing in trustDefeatedNo energyLives in the present and futureDominated by fearHelplessMore smiles than tearsHopefulDistrustfulWithdrawn sociallyBitterOptimisticConfidentAshamedRenewed energyNeeds sympathyFocused on the pain2.As you look through your list of words
and phrases that describe both the victim and the survivor, do you see yourself more as a victim or as a survivor? Why?3.Which three of the descriptor words or phrases are the most accurate in describing
you and your current status?4.What three words or phrases were most accurate in describing you during the
trauma?5.What three words or phrases best described you a year ago before you began
the journey toward becoming a survivor?6.On a scale of 1 to 5, rate your degree of feeling like a victim (1) or a
survivor (5).
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7.What has helped you or will help you the most in moving from being a victim
to becoming a survivor?